Recognising Love

While surfing on the net, looking for some nice quotes, I came across one which touched me by its simplicity in expressing something I have been wanting to put into words for a while now.

“It’s so easy, To think about Love, To Talk about Love, To wish for Love, But it’s not always easy, To recognize Love, Even when we hold it…. In our hands.” –Jaka

There are always big talks about love. I am referring to the romantic kind of love here. The other person who is supposed to make you feel great and happy. The other meaningful soul, the one with whom you feel whole. Some people have experienced the *real* thing. Others say they are still waiting for the *right* one to come along. Also, there are others who say they *don’t believe* in that forever kind of love. Yet, others will say love break hearts, causes tears and isn’t worth it. All in all, we all really think about love and talk about love and sometimes even yearn for it.

All that of course is easy. One can sit down and imagine how the *perfect* love is, right? I do it myself loads of time. 😉 Others can blab for hours about their different experiences. And we all want to be loved. Anyone who denies that is a *fool*. 😛 But as the quote carries on, it is not always easy to recognise love. How does that happen? Why can’t we see it? It says in the quote, “even when we hold it in our hands”… Isn’t that totally crazy? Why can’t we recognise the one person who is supposed to love us truly? The *One*?

We all know how many love stories end so bitterly. Why? This is where I think this quote is totally true. We can’t recognise the real thing. We fancy ourselves in love,and we go overboard and are so happy… but when that phase is over, what remains? bitterness? anger? *nothing?*

In my personal opinion, true love is what remains after that surging fire you feel at first dies away…What remains after that utter happiness we think no one can destroy…love is what remains after the first intoxications, addictions. Many couples break up because they lose that *special* feeling, right?

There is a big difference, I think, between being *in love* and to simply *love*. Being in love fades away after some time. Loving someone stays forever. 🙂 That is why quotes like the one I have mentioned here exist. Those people who have said it must have seen it or experienced it. It wasn’t said just to be famous, hmm?

So, if after the sweet madness of being in love is over and you find out, there is nothing left except frustration, anger and bitterness, tell yourself it was not the real thing. Love is not supposed to be like that. You simply had a terrible attraction and now it is over.

Love is finding out, after that sweet madness I mentioned, that you are so into each other that you cannot imagine your life without one another. You see in the other person a part of your true self. You simply *complete* each other. 🙂 It is about everything *after*.

Those who have found that know real happiness I suppose. Some people keep looking for it and still fail to recognise it. There are also those who don’t look for it, but who recognised it and do not do anything about it…they simply let it go…complex hmm? because they are scared about the *intensity*? of the *dependence?* of the *disbelief*? I for one can hardly know! 😛

Bottom line I say love is a beautiful thing…another quote goes by saying: “Love is the beauty of the soul.” It is *truly*.

Choices

“It is a damn cold night, trying to figure out this life…” Avril Lavigne – I’m with you

The night was cold indeed and I was kind of taking a trip down memory lane. It is becoming one of my favorite places. 😛 I guess when you have nothing to do and when you cannot find sleep, your mind has a way of falling back to the past or fast forwarding into the future. Well, it happens like that for me. The past it is this time and I am trying to figure out this life. Basically, going through what I have achieved in the past, thing I can say I am proud of…and also others that I am not very proud of. 😦 One thing I can say though is that everything happens for a reason and based on the choices I have made at different stages of my life. My *DeStInY*

Ok, some people do not believe in Destiny, that life is preordained. Destiny was, is and always be a topic full of enigmas. Who really understands it properly? Different religions have different say on the matter. Many wise people have studied it but they each have their own explanation.

For me, our destiny is shaped by our *choices*. In life, we always have alternatives: We can “yes” and we can say “No”. We know when something is “good” and when something is “bad”. Life is preordained yes, but Man have what we call the *free will*, or the *power to choose*. When we are just children, our parents always took decisions for us and chose in our place. This is because they know what’s good for us then. But gradually, We are also taught what is right and what is wrong. That is the way it has to be. Come adolescence, we are allowed to take some decisions on our own because it is believed that we can distinguish between what is good and what is bad for us. Above Eighteen, we become accountable for our actions. At that age, we are mature enough to act in the correct way. To lead our life like responsible individuals. That is the “normal” way things should be. In a perfect world. But this world is not perfect and not everyone gets to lead a “normal” life. But let us come to our choices. Everyday we are faced with those. And every choice we make has a consequence. The consequence can be something that happens to us, something we obtain, something we feel, and the like. And those consequences can affect other people’s life. What do you choose? Sometimes it is complex. You may ask others for advice but in the end, the final decision is yours to make. From there, you have other choices to make and so on. So, for me life is full of choices and alternatives. More often than not, the choices are not obvious and they may not be apparent but with time, you will always find it.

Also, it can happen when you don’t have any choice but to do one specific thing, right? But that too is a result of a previous choice. I hence call a situation of no choice a consequence. 😉 Moreover, very often, we choose without really realising it. Here, maybe our personality plays a role. We choose based on what we like best for example. But it all comes down to choices. There is an outcome for everything and those outcomes, well, they are controlled by a *Greater Power*. I have no other way of explaining that. For instance, why something is the consequence of a certain action? That is what is preordained. The law of nature…