People will always talk

We have all been victims of gossip and of course guilty of gossiping.  

Basically, gossiping is nothing ‘that’ wrong. By definition it is just idle talk about someone else’s private life. Harm is caused i believe when it is done maliciously, which could include backbiting or betraying someone’s trust while doing so. 

What actually brings me to talk about this topic here is Facebook. We are all aware of this great online community, where everybody is aware of everybody else’s business! Who is in a relationship with whom, who just broke up and who did what and when, who is friends with whom, the list goes on and on. 

Facebook and the applications of the like have given another flair to gossiping. It spices it a bit more and brings the element of ‘proof’ in the matter. ‘You don’t believe me? Check on Facebook and see for yourself!’ 😛

But again, like I mentioned once in my post on ‘PMs on MSN’, someone does not like it when you comment on what they have written or what they have done! My opinion on the matter has evolved some. Sometimes people will write with the intention of just informing others on their network what they have been up to and how they are feeling. However, this does not mean that our opinions are wanted! Know it but Shut it! 😛 Alas though! it is quite impossible to ask people to shut it! Everyone will always have an opinion and will always talk. Either they will comment to you directly or they will gossip about you! :p My advice remains the same in this context. You have to put up with it. If you can’t, do not publish your life on a public network such as Facebook. 

On the other hand, backbiting is very different from gossiping. The difference has to be made. Some people just like to talk bad about other people and spreading it world-wide! :@ If you can recognise such peeps, just stay away from them. But then again, if you have nothing to hide… 😀

Bottom line, people will always talk…you just have to be aware of what you say and to whom you say it and specially where you are giving information about yourself…

“People make and break your reputation…”

Women and High Heels

Countless number of times, I heard my mum telling me to stop wearing those flat shoes or ‘ballerines’ I am so fond of wearing and to start wearing high heels. High heels will make me look taller, smarter and more ‘chic’ to go to work. I gave it a try and most of the time, I like it. But, girls, we got to admit that it is not comfortable and sometimes difficult to walk in, specially when the ground you are walking on ain’t that high-heel-friendly! 😛 

So I was just browsing the net, looking about information on high heels and its history (yeah, fashion history is very interesting 😉 ). Well, I did come across some important stuffs I was not quite aware of.

  • Why do women wear high heels in the first place?

First and foremost, to be more NOTICEABLE! ” Women in heels are more likely to attract favourable notice..” It is no secret that when you are taller, you get more attention. In addition to making a woman look taller, high heels enhance the shape of her body: “high heels force the back to arch, pushing the bosom forward and the buttocks rearward, thus accentuating the female form.” 

 

  • Medical Issues Surrounding High Heels
  1.  Sore feet at the end of the day
  2. The shape of the body caused by wearing high heels is not the ‘normal’ anatomical position.
  3. Physicians say high heels are “biomechanically and orthopedically unsound,” citing medical, postural and safety faults of such heels, according to the American Podiatric Medical Association. 
  4. Knee and Back problems.
  5. Shortened Calf Muscles
  6. Pump bump (“It’s like a callus of bone on the back of the heel from the shoe rubbing the bone.”)
  • Best Shoe Designers

Among the best shoe designers, we find the names of Yves Saint-Laurent, Christian Dior, Gianni Versace and Jimmy Choo. Notice the similarity: They are all men! [Blame the discomfort on men! 😉 ]

All in all, I would say that is it a matter of choice. Some girls I know cannot go anywhere without their high heels. They just love it. Some wear it to make an impression, to state power etc. Every woman has her own reasons. However, it is very important to be aware of the dangers of high heels. That part is not very well known by women. 

In my opinion, the best way to go is to choose the appropriate day and time to enjoy the high heels. For example, it will not be practical to wear them on a day when you would be on your feet the whole time. 😛 

Below is a nice quote about high heels that I find interesting to think about:

“High heels speak to women and society. They refuse to be considered just another accessory, but demand recognition of their complexity and power and feminine construction,”  Arielle Abeyta – High Heels: 4 Inches Closer to Heaven 

 

References:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-548730/Lifes-little-mysteries

http://serendip.brynmawr.edu

http://www.healthatoz.com/healthatoz/Atoz/common

The Future

For some time now, I am under the impression that my life has come at a standstill. It feels like I am walking a straight line, not even knowing where it is leading. No destination. No goals. It is not that I am dissatisfied with my life but something is missing.

So, on this lazy Sunday, I am sitting at my computer and thinking about my future. Just like I used to when I was a little girl. You know, when you are just 10 and trying to imagine how you’d be like when you are in your twenties. You dream of a perfect future. But when you are finally in your twenties, you see the world as it is and you know you will not have that perfect future. You will not get everything you want.

And without really knowing it, you stop planning, you stop dreaming. That is what happened to me, I suppose. Right now, I have nothing to look forward to. I am living a day-to-day life.  I cannot imagine what my future will be like. 

Ok! so nobody can predict the future, but we can still imagine it some way or the other… and most importantly, you plan for it. You do the things that you need to to get you there. And even if you fail, even if your dreams shatter to pieces, stand tall. Atleast, you went out there, you fought and you lost….so what? you will not be losing all the time! 😀 

Maybe my writing this down here does not make much sense to those reading it…but it does to me. If I stand still, I will stay still. I do not want to stay still. I want to move, and for that I need to dream for a future…not the ones of a little girl…but that of a young woman…

So I am going to go *dream* and make plans…cause making plans, that is what we do. 🙂