Marriage is a hot topic right now among my friends, guys and girls alike. Now that we have reached a certain step (and age) in our life, that is, university over and working, people, including close friends, family or those distant relatives, expect us to at least start considering marriage. To find someone who is physically and financially fit to start a family with. People dropping proposals at home now and then, people coming up to you unexpectedly in the street or at some other functions.
It gets annoying, doesn’t it? Especially if you don’t want that kind of thing. Especially if you have other plans in the immediate future?
But I believe that it should not be taken like that. There is nothing wrong, is there? If you are getting a wedding proposal, it means you are eligible, right? 😛 Somehow somewhere someone is considering you! 😉 However, on a more serious tone, getting annoyed will not stop the proposals from coming. You just have to know how to deal with the situation. As I have learnt, smiling and saying thanks, but no thanks, always does the trick. Always be amiable and keep a smile. Let the people talk, make as if you are listening. Be polite. Respond by ‘hmm hmm’, and ‘aaah!’ when they say something interesting (like he is a manager or has that kind of car 😉 ). Cause ultimately, the decision is yours. The final ‘yes’ or ‘no’ has to come from you, right? That is why I believe that it is useless to get all worked up and frustrated when proposals of marriage keep coming at you.
But I have yet to experience the ‘forceful’ kind of proposals. I mean, when the decision or the choice is being made by some other party. Now this is completely ‘barbarious’. Not at all suited in this modern age. It is unacceptable that parents still force their daughters (and guys too in some cases, but mostly it happens with girls) to marry someone of their choosing. I know this is still a reality but I’d like to believe it is becoming rarer. Girls are more educated now and hence fight for their rights to choose their own companion.
In addition to this, there is the ‘ready’ factor. We may have come of age or reached the age that our own parents got married but are we ready? Ready to take on the responsibilities that marriage entail? We surely have reached the maturity to know that marriage is much much more than just roses and champagne. Just look at our parents. What they have been doing all through their years together. All the ups and downs. Some people even wished they never got married. There is a life to live after taking your vows. Are we ready for that? Our parents have ‘learnt on the job’ and somehow expects us to do the same. I am not saying that you have to know everything before getting married. Surely we can’t. But young people’s state of mind is so different now, when compared to those of 10 to 20 years ago.
Now we enjoy our freedom. A long time back, a girl depended on a ‘good’ marriage proposal to make sure she’ll have a good and financially secured future. Now we, women do not really need that. Women work and can stand on their own two feet. Marriage is not an excuse to live happily ever after. Like the pussycat dolls put it: ‘I don’t need a man to make me happy.’
Marriage is an important institution and should only be considered by two individuals (preferably a male and a female ;)) when they are mentally (and financially too) ready to do so. Age should not be a problem, to a certain limit. Keep in mind girls that we do have a biological clock ticking. But then again, this is important if you want to have babies. 😉
Don’t rush into marriage to later add to the divorce statistics.
So I like I always say, make it about you. If you feel like you ain’t ready to kiss your single life away, then don’t. If you feel like you are ready, hurry and do it before you change your mind! 😛 <joke> Seriously, get married only when you feel ready.